From Roommates to Lifelong Friends—How Connection Changed My Recovery
When I first walked into sober living, I wasn’t thinking about making lifelong friends. Honestly, I was just trying to survive the day-to-day grind of early recovery—staying sober, figuring out what came next, and hoping I wouldn’t screw it all up.
But here’s the thing no one really tells you about sober living—you’re not just moving into a house with strangers. You’re moving into a support system that’s going to challenge you, push you, and—if you’re lucky—turn into the people who stick with you long after you leave.
I didn’t know it then, but the friendships I made in recovery would end up being some of the most meaningful relationships in my life. These are the people who saw me at my lowest, cheered me on as I rebuilt my life, and kept me accountable even when I didn’t want to be. And yeah, they’re also the guys who’ve laughed at me when I completely bombed my first yoga class or had to eat ramen for dinner three nights in a row because I forgot to budget for groceries.
So let’s talk about connection in recovery—the people who made this journey possible for me and why friendship might just be the missing piece in your recovery too.
7 Ways Connections in Sober Living Can Turn Roommates into Lifelong Friends
- Shared Struggles Build Trust Quickly
- Accountability Strengthens Relationships
- Support During Tough Times Builds Deeper Connections
- Celebrating Milestones Together Creates Lasting Bonds
- Learning to Communicate Openly Fosters Trust
- Facing Challenges Together Builds Resilience
- Encouraging Growth and Success Inspires Lifelong Loyalty
Wade—From Landlord to Mentor to Boss (and Friend)
Tyler—From Resident to Leader
Let’s talk about Tyler—one of the best connections I made through sober living and a guy who’s absolutely killing it now.
Tyler started out as a resident in one of the houses I managed. He was pretty quiet at first, but you could tell right away that he was serious about recovery. He kept his head down, stayed focused, and put in the work. Honestly, I always had a feeling he’d do big things, but watching it actually happen has been even cooler than I expected.
Fast forward to today, and Tyler’s the manager of the very house he used to live in. He’s not just keeping things running—he’s leading by example and helping other guys do exactly what he did. And if that’s not impressive enough, he’s also a case manager at Plugged In Recovery. Meanwhile, I’ve moved into my own place, but seeing Tyler step up and take over that house like a pro has been awesome to watch.
Tyler’s story is one of my favorites because it proves just how much growth is possible when you have the right connections and put in the work. It’s not just about staying sober—it’s about building confidence, leadership skills, and a future you can be proud of. And trust me, watching Tyler go from resident to leader has been a reminder of why sober living works and how the connections you make along the way can completely change your life.
Damen—The Friend Who Never Gave Up on Me
Ryan—My Roommate and My Rock
And then there’s Ryan—my roommate and one of my best friends. Ryan and I have been through it all—good times, bad times, and everything in between.
Now we’re both working at Plugged In Recovery—Ryan as the Director of Admissions and me as the Marketing Director. Living together has been awesome because we keep each other motivated and accountable. Whether it’s hitting the gym, sticking to our routines, or just venting after a long day, Ryan’s always been someone I can count on.
Memories from my time as a director of sober living homes
Final Thoughts—The People Make the Difference
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in recovery, it’s that you can’t do this alone. Whether it’s a mentor like Wade, a teammate like Tyler, or lifelong friends like Damen and Ryan, having people who get it makes all the difference.
Sober living didn’t just give me a place to stay—it gave me a community. And if you’re starting out, my advice is simple—lean into the people around you. Find your support system, show up for them, and let them show up for you.
Because at the end of the day, recovery isn’t just about getting sober—it’s about building a life worth living. And it’s a whole lot easier when you’ve got the right people by your side.