From Roommates to Lifelong Friends—How Connection Changed My Recovery

When I first walked into sober living, I wasn’t thinking about making lifelong friends. Honestly, I was just trying to survive the day-to-day grind of early recovery—staying sober, figuring out what came next, and hoping I wouldn’t screw it all up.

But here’s the thing no one really tells you about sober living—you’re not just moving into a house with strangers. You’re moving into a support system that’s going to challenge you, push you, and—if you’re lucky—turn into the people who stick with you long after you leave.

Connection in recovery

I didn’t know it then, but the friendships I made in recovery would end up being some of the most meaningful relationships in my life. These are the people who saw me at my lowest, cheered me on as I rebuilt my life, and kept me accountable even when I didn’t want to be. And yeah, they’re also the guys who’ve laughed at me when I completely bombed my first yoga class or had to eat ramen for dinner three nights in a row because I forgot to budget for groceries.

So let’s talk about connection in recovery—the people who made this journey possible for me and why friendship might just be the missing piece in your recovery too.

7 Ways Connections in Sober Living Can Turn Roommates into Lifelong Friends

  1. Shared Struggles Build Trust Quickly
  2. Accountability Strengthens Relationships
  3. Support During Tough Times Builds Deeper Connections
  4. Celebrating Milestones Together Creates Lasting Bonds
  5. Learning to Communicate Openly Fosters Trust
  6. Facing Challenges Together Builds Resilience
  7. Encouraging Growth and Success Inspires Lifelong Loyalty

Wade—From Landlord to Mentor to Boss (and Friend)

Wade Muhlhauser

Let me start with Wade, because my life wouldn’t look anything like it does today without that connection. When I first met Wade, he was the guy running the sober living house I was living in. At the time, I didn’t know much about him—just that he’d built a successful recovery business and seemed to have his life figured out.

Fast forward to now, and Wade isn’t just the owner of 11 sober living homes and a 10-bed luxury residential treatment center—he’s also my boss, business partner, and one of my closest friends.

I worked my way up in Wade’s houses—starting as a resident, moving to manager, and eventually becoming director. And trust me, it wasn’t always smooth sailing. There were plenty of days when I had no idea what I was doing and others when I was sure I was failing miserably. But Wade saw something in me—even when I couldn’t see it in myself. He gave me opportunities, trusted me with responsibility, and challenged me to keep growing instead of playing it safe.

Over the past year, that connection has taken me all over the country. Wade and I have traveled to industry events like the NARR Conference in Virginia and the East Coast Symposium in Florida. We’ve spent time learning, networking, and building Plugged In Recovery into what it is today. It’s been a wild ride, and honestly, I wouldn’t trade a single minute of it.

If you’re sitting there wondering whether sober living can actually change your life, let me be the first to tell you—it absolutely can. My connection with Wade took me from someone starting over with nothing but a suitcase and a lot of regrets to working alongside him as Marketing Director of his treatment center. And that’s the kind of growth and opportunity that starts with saying yes to recovery and building real connections with the people who show up for you.

Tyler—From Resident to Leader

Tyler Eggleston Case Manager

Let’s talk about Tyler—one of the best connections I made through sober living and a guy who’s absolutely killing it now.

Tyler started out as a resident in one of the houses I managed. He was pretty quiet at first, but you could tell right away that he was serious about recovery. He kept his head down, stayed focused, and put in the work. Honestly, I always had a feeling he’d do big things, but watching it actually happen has been even cooler than I expected.

Fast forward to today, and Tyler’s the manager of the very house he used to live in. He’s not just keeping things running—he’s leading by example and helping other guys do exactly what he did. And if that’s not impressive enough, he’s also a case manager at Plugged In Recovery. Meanwhile, I’ve moved into my own place, but seeing Tyler step up and take over that house like a pro has been awesome to watch.

Tyler’s story is one of my favorites because it proves just how much growth is possible when you have the right connections and put in the work. It’s not just about staying sober—it’s about building confidence, leadership skills, and a future you can be proud of. And trust me, watching Tyler go from resident to leader has been a reminder of why sober living works and how the connections you make along the way can completely change your life.

Damen—The Friend Who Never Gave Up on Me

Damen Remy

Now let’s talk about Damen—one of the strongest connections I made in sober living and a guy who’s been there for me through everything.

I met Damen back in 2020 when we were both living in Paul Garcia’s sober living house. Right away, I could tell he was solid. He was motivated, focused, and always pushing himself to be better. He’s the kind of guy who makes you want to step up your game just by being around him.

When I relapsed, Damen didn’t judge me or turn his back on me. He was actually one of the first people to reach out and make sure I was okay. He reminded me that relapse isn’t the end—it’s just part of the process sometimes. Having someone like Damen in my corner, especially during a time when I was beating myself up, made all the difference. He didn’t let me quit on myself, and I’ll never forget that.

Fast forward to today, and Damen’s absolutely crushing it in the finance world. He’s one of the most driven and hardworking people I know, and I’m proud to call him a friend. Oh—and he’s getting married in April 2025, which is wild to think about considering where we both started. I’m honored to be one of his groomsmen, and honestly, it just blows my mind how far we’ve both come.

Damen’s story—and our connection—is proof that sober living isn’t just about getting your life back on track. It’s about finding people who stick with you, believe in you, and push you to keep going even when you feel like giving up. And that’s what makes these relationships in recovery so powerful.

Ryan—My Roommate and My Rock

Ryan Jongeward Director of Admissions Plugged In Recovery

And then there’s Ryan—my roommate and one of my best friends. Ryan and I have been through it all—good times, bad times, and everything in between.

Now we’re both working at Plugged In Recovery—Ryan as the Director of Admissions and me as the Marketing Director. Living together has been awesome because we keep each other motivated and accountable. Whether it’s hitting the gym, sticking to our routines, or just venting after a long day, Ryan’s always been someone I can count on.

Memories from my time as a director of sober living homes

Being the Director of Plugged In Sober Living was easily one of the most rewarding and eye-opening experiences of my life. I got to see people walk through the doors feeling completely lost, scared, and unsure of themselves—and then, over time, turn it all around. But the best part? It wasn’t just watching them get sober—it was seeing the connections they built along the way.

I saw guys who barely knew each other go from awkward introductions to best friends who had each other’s backs no matter what. They’d hold each other accountable, push each other to stay focused, and celebrate wins like they’d been family their whole lives. And the women? They showed up guarded and alone, but before long, they had ride-or-die friendships that kept them grounded and helped them push through the hard days.

I can’t count how many times I’d walk into the house and see people laughing in the kitchen, cooking dinner together, or having deep late-night talks about life. Watching those connections grow made it so clear why sober living works. It’s not just a place to stay sober—it’s a place to build relationships that stick with you for life.

What’s even cooler is that I’ve stayed in touch with so many of the people who came through our houses. Their connections didn’t end when they moved out. They’re still showing up for each other—celebrating milestones, lending a hand during rough patches, or just hanging out and catching up. It’s living proof that recovery is about so much more than just getting clean.

It’s about building a life you actually love—with people who get you and will stick by your side no matter what. And honestly? Getting to be a part of that was one of the best parts of my job.

Final Thoughts—The People Make the Difference

If there’s one thing I’ve learned in recovery, it’s that you can’t do this alone. Whether it’s a mentor like Wade, a teammate like Tyler, or lifelong friends like Damen and Ryan, having people who get it makes all the difference.

Sober living didn’t just give me a place to stay—it gave me a community. And if you’re starting out, my advice is simple—lean into the people around you. Find your support system, show up for them, and let them show up for you.

Because at the end of the day, recovery isn’t just about getting sober—it’s about building a life worth living. And it’s a whole lot easier when you’ve got the right people by your side.

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